Answer me this: if you were getting married, would you let your family (and your in-laws) know the dates you were thinking about? Or would you just pick a date and tell everyone to stick it- rearrange your schedule or don't bother coming. And what if this wedding was planned TWO WEEKS in advance. What would you do then? Eh?
Would you, as a friend/relative of the couple, be able to drop everything and be at the wedding...on the other side of the country? And what if you had something you couldn't get out of? What then?
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Sucks to be in that situation.
if i were planning a wedding more than 2 weeks in advance, i would ask people i really cared about what their schedules were like, and then i would choose a date based on what works for the most people (can't please everyone).
if you're planning a wedding 2 weeks in advance, having everyone there obviously isn't your priority and you have to expect that people won't be able to drop absolutely everything to attend.
if i were invited to said wedding, a lot of my efforts to attend would be based on my relationship w/ that person. and if there's something one can't get out of, then one can't get out of it.
When planning a get-together, you always ask the availability of the "required" attendees. You don't necessarily ask the "optional" attendees.
Sounds to me like given the short lead time and the distances potentially involved, and that noone was polled, everyone but the bride and groom are considered "optional" to the wedding.
Maybe this is just the guy in me speaking, but I don't think they really care who's there and who isn't. The most important thing to the engaged couple is getting hitched... everything else is secondary.
Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
Hmmm. Well, truthfully, David and I didn't send our invitations out until about a week before. Though, we had verbally given folks a bit more notice . . .
Now that I work full-time and people depend on me to be at my job everyday and I have to request time off 2 months advance, I can definitely understand that sometimes one simply can't drop one's obligations and take off.
I suppose I didn't really answer your question.
Gosh. I would probably ask their availability, BUT then you face the issue of no one being able to come at the same time and you having to choose which relative to exclude when you pick the date. Sorry sucker. At least if you don't ask you don't have to feel double bad...? I'm not sure if that works.
If you want them there, you should probably ask and make it so.
Best of luck!
I would plan it whenever I want and not ask for dates, however, I would kindly give at least 3 mos. notice. 2 weeks notice seems to indicate that said person does not care about having everyone there.
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