So I was just wondering if you peeps were more likely to think have lots of kids or just have kids in general. It appears that have kids in general wins. I've always gotten the impression, probably incorrect and spurred by my rabid fear/distaste/displeasure at the thought of having children any time in the near future, that it meant have lots of kids, which would also explain why many Mormons are so prone to reproducing like rabbits. Not that it mattered, for, as you've noticed, I still don't have any kids. Which I'm totally fine with.
Take that all you people who shall remain nameless who want me to have a babby asap! :P
I would really be much better of if multiply and replenish meant grow a nice garden and plant trees. I'm really quite good at that...
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Have kids when you are ready! It is so annoying when people put the pressure on, it made me want to wait longer. Anyway do it when you are ready so you can enjoy it.
I think if you really don't want kids you shouldn't have them. Because if you don't want them, they will know it...
I think you guys are doing it right. Take your time. But I do look forward to a little T-Kel.
I think that historically, the Church (both leaders and regular old members) interpreted it as "have tons and tons of kids constantly hope you don't die in the process." But I think that there has been a definite shift towards "have kids, but do when you feel it to be right and have the number you think is right." Of course, the former attitude can still be very, very easily found, but I most certainly agree with the latter. It's nobody's business but the couple's (my stake president was VERY insistent on that point when we went in for our pre-marriage interview.)
My curernt stake president was rather put-out last year when I told him I didn't have kids yet because I just didn't have them. Is it bad to have urges to throw things at your Priesthood leader while having a temple recommend interview?
you made a deal with me, and if i remember , you are a year past due. You should have a baby by now. hahahaha. Fine, if you really dont want them, thats fine....
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Fautie the Fauteoooo oh oh nooo says:
It is pretty clear that the LDS Church historically taught that multiply meant many, lots, have mucho bambinos. I think it had to do with a number of things. First this idea that there are all these little spirits waiting for bodies and if we don't give them bodies they will be stuck in some nasty gentile home, grow up unrighteous end not make it back to the Celestial Kingdom.
I also think lots of babies means more Mormons which for Mormon leaders means a larger Church.
Also, being the from the time when SWK was Pres of the Church I think getting married young and popping out kids quick and lots of them was more apt to keep one on the Mormon conveyor belt.
I think there are still undertones of all this but LDS leaders are softer about it. Still in my reading I think they are concerned that the 20 something generation ME types are not quite with the program. They seem to delay marrying more, delay having kids more and have less than previous LDS generations.
As far as your fam wanting you to have kids I know I have teased and bugged you about this. I am sorry. This is up to you and hubby pooh. But supposedly there is joy in ones posterity and I have been told that in ones old age children, grandchildren and so on are precious. There are trade offs in life.
Me and my bride were ones that planned on populating the planet with Mormon babies. Started off wanting 6. Then it dropped one with each of the first three that all came quick from 1982 to 1986. Then for some reason I had a brain fart and wanted another lovely little rug rat and our blessed little Kate came along in 1995. In my more benevolent years I thought when I was older and my kids grown I would adopt kids from poor places in the world. Alas, that altruistic desire has long since disappeared. The three we raised and the one left has driven that out of me.I am now selfish and ready to have a party in five years when my last one enters college. Not that I don't love them all. They just wore me out.
So, why all this? Having and raising children is DANG hard work. There is much joy and plenty of pain and sorrow as well in the whole process. I am sure it is worth it though.
Fautie Hill
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